This Is hard for me, because I am a person who is usually open and honest with my friends and family, and often ask for their advice or support. However, I just can’t bring myself to say “I had an abortion”. I’m so scared. I’m scared what they will think of me. Scared they will judge me. When I see people on social media talking about how people who get abortions are careless, wanted the easy way out, so on, I just want to tell them my experience. That abortion is NOT an easy choice, and all the lessons it has taught me. I do not think I should be ashamed, 1 in 3 women obtain this legal, safe, medical procedure. But I just can’t bring myself to tell them.
On Monday, I went to the OB GYN. It was the first time I’ve been there since my abortion, and I decided I should tell him, and wanted to ask some questions about fertility and stuff like that. He was a middle aged man, worked at a Catholic Hospital, and also knew my dad. When he asked me if I wanted to ask/ tell him anything, I quietly told “I had an abortion at seven weeks in January”. He nodded, asked if everything had healed OK, but did not say much else
Later, in the exam room, he came in. He put his hand on my shoulder and said these kind words, ones that I do not think I’ll be able to let go of, and have me in tears right now.
"Thank you so much for telling me. I know that must of been really traumatic for you. I’m so thankful you were honest with me and I know it was hard. I’m not here to judge you, just to make sure I can help in any way I can" . He told me when I am ready to have children, I should have no problems, and to not listen to the pro-life antics and "medical facts".
His kindness gives me courage to be more honest about my experience. However, it makes me sad that the only person I can be 100% honest with is a stranger. People do not realize how their unkind (and often untrue) antics about abortion effect a person, and how it prevents them from being able to give an honest voice about the topic.